Using Children as Weapons in a Failed Relationship

Parents that use their children as weapons, to fight against each other are treating them as  their property. 

The Games Played: 

Intentionally using a child in defiance against another parent, to cause unhappiness

Deliberately overloading the other parent, with unnecessary childcare responsibilities

falsely claiming the child need more money for financial means

Making false accusations against the other parent character to the child, in an attempt to destroy the relationship between the child and that parent

To say negative things about the other parents in the presence of their child is wrong, placing too much financial responsibility on the other parent is also wrong. And it is also wrong to do things to cause the other parent unhappiness by intentionally overloading them with child care responsibilities.

Auguring in front of a child over child support and time spent with the child should never be done. To make a child feel as though they are property that is a burden for their parent, will cause the child to feel unloved.

Parents who do not try to make their child comfortable with both parents by sharing everything equal if possible, and treating each other civil, are causing unhappiness to their child who will have unpleasant memories of the parents.

Parents Are Expected to Teach Their Children Righteous Behavior by Being a Role Model

Scripture:

For I know that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he has spoken of him. (Genesis 18:19)

*Evil imaginations causes harm to others. Such things do not dwell in the mind of a righteous person.

Written by:  Ellen J. Barrier