Judging by Looks Alone Can Be Deceiving

If the this tree was judged by its appearance alone, it would not get a fair judgment.
Some people choose a person to begin a relationship with, based on their appearance alone.
Judging by looks alone, rather than by quality, leads to disappoints in relationships.
This tree might appear to be unattractive at first glance.  But when it is carefully observed, it has some very attractive features and some amazing qualities; Support, Strength, and Protection

It is easy to hold onto for support, because of the shape of its branches.
It has a strong trunk, and will provide protection.
Every branch has a special look and quality that provides comfort.
When you carefully observe this tree, you find its features and qualities are attractive.
The person who has this tree will have everlasting happiness.

In a relationship support, strength, and protection is needed for happiness.

__ Written by Ellen J. Barrier

Good Night

                                                 I wish you a peaceful night with sweet dreams of much happiness.

Have a Sunny Day!

                         “Truly the light is sweet, and a pleasant thing it is for the eyes to behold the sun.”~ Solomon
             “Life is a journey; let's enjoy it, seeing some exciting things, and having fun along the way.”~ Ellen J. Barrier                                         http://barriersbooksandassociates.com/

Using Children as Weapons in a Failed Relationship

Parents that use their children as weapons, to fight against each other are treating them as  their property. 

The Games Played: 

Intentionally using a child in defiance against another parent, to cause unhappiness
Deliberately overloading the other parent, with unnecessary childcare responsibilities
falsely claiming the child need more money for financial means
Making false accusations against the other parent character to the child, in an attempt to destroy the relationship between the child and that parent

To say negative things about the other parents in the presence of their child is wrong, placing too much financial responsibility on the other parent is also wrong. And it is also wrong to do things to cause the other parent unhappiness by intentionally overloading them with child care responsibilities.

Auguring in front of a child over child support and time spent with the child should never be done. To make a child feel as though they are property that is a burden for their parent, will cause the child to feel unloved.

Parents who do not try to make their child comfortable with both parents by sharing everything equal if possible, and treating each other civil, are causing unhappiness to their child who will have unpleasant memories of the parents.

Parents Are Expected to Teach Their Children Righteous Behavior by Being a Role Model


For I know that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he has spoken of him. (Genesis 18:19)

*Evil imaginations causes harm to others. Such things do not dwell in the mind of a righteous person.

Written by:  Ellen J. Barrier